Job Search

I have sent out numerous resumes to local districts, both electronically and through the mail. I haven't received so much as a "thanks but no thanks" form letter. I often wonder if the districts are even getting my electronic applications that they INSIST we use instead of sending through the mail or inquiring over the phone.

I'm starting to think I have a better chance of winning the lottery than I do getting a teaching job here in the area. SOMEONE HIRE ME!!!

Tuesday begins my summer course as I continue working for my graduate degree, part time. Whoop-de-freakin-do.

Happy Father's Day!

To all the Fathers, Grandfathers, Great-Grandfathers, and Reverend Fathers out there, I wish you all the happiest Father's Day! Your contributions to your families (or parishioners) is greatly appreciated. You have the duty to guide, protect, teach, inspire and love the children entrusted to your care.

As I celebrate with my Dad today, I also remember fondly my Grandfathers who are now in their eternal home. I fondly recall my Gramps, Vince, who did everything for my family and I. His simple sense of humor, quiet demeanor, and large heart are greatly missed, but his love and legacy can still be felt in my heart and mind.

To the Reverend Fathers across the globe: Thank you for your spiritual care and guidance!

Good Read

For those of you who think "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is a good policy, or think "sexuality isn't part of the military, it's about the group, not the individual", I have a book for you to read. Ask and Tell: Gay and Lesbian Veterans Speak Out by Steve Estes. It chronicles the achievements of gay and lesbian veterans during their time in the military from WWII to present day service in Iraq.

So many, including many gays, are content with this idea of staying in the military closet.. after all, you were there to serve your country, not to have "relations". This book explores just how profoundly the military's homophobia has impacted countless men and women who have loyally served, and yet have been dishonorably discharged or harassed because of their sexual orientation. If the military was not the place for discussing sexuality, then hold EVERYONE accountable, not just homosexuals. All men and women, heterosexual included, should be banned from discussing any sort of relationship and or sexual activity. Imagine if heterosexuals were not allowed to discuss their families, spouses, or even have them live in military housing. There would be protesting in the streets, but for some reason.. we accept it as a fair compromise for gays and lesbians since the military is not about "sexuality".

This country has a long way to go before it finally grows up.

Pride Day (for Buffalo)

Because a powerful and influential portion of the majority try to deny us our basic rights, we celebrate our pride today. Because there are so many who try to ridicule us into obscurity, we celebrate our pride today. Because there are those who claim we are not really God's children and worthy of his love the way we are, we celebrate our pride today. EVERYONE deserves to be treated with dignity. Happy Pride Day! - M.V.L.

"Give them hope" Speech by Supervisor Harvey Milk, in 1978 San Francisco

The Ongoing Debate on Gay Marriage

With the recent passing of Prop. 8 in California, banning gay marriage, there has been quite a bit of discussion in the media about whether or not gays should have the right to marry. The most staunch opponents to gay marriage seems to come from strict Christian conservatives and Bible fundamentalists. While I personally do have a deep rooted faith in the Catholic-Christian tradition, as well as being a staunch traditionalist in the Liturgical sense, I do differ greatly from my heterosexual counterparts on the topic of gay marriage.

We often hear the rhetoric that we need to preserve the "sanctity" of marriage as seen in Scripture, as well as what has been handed down to us through the generations. Namely, that marriage is a union between a man and a woman, developed from a deep seated love for one another. I'm very much in favor of marriage being about a committed and monogamous love, but the rest seems to be a bit fuzzy, especially from a historical perspective.

First, let's deal briefly with Scripture. While I make no claims to be a great Bible historian or a theologian, I can read. The only passage that I want to deal with in this entry will be from the book of Leviticus, which seems to be the most quoted. Opponents to gay marriage use this Old Testament book to show God's disapproval of same sex relations. Man shall not lie with man as he would a woman. It would be an abomination. Ok, pretty simple enough. If we interpret this literally, and believe that social and historical context of the time in which this was written (WELL before the birth of Christ -- when Moses and Aaron were taking the Israelites out of Egypt) make no difference, AND we impose those cultural norms and standards on the 21st century, then yes.. I agree... gay relationships are an abomination.

Let's however look at what else the book of Leviticus has to offer us. In this book (feel free to look it up.. I suggest reading the ENTIRE book, it's rather interesting), men are forbidden from "rounding the edges of their beards", or trimming them in the modern sense. So all of us who have goatees, we are committing a big "no no". Scarring of the body by any means, namly tattoos is strictly forbidden in this verse. Oddly enough, I know some Evangelical ministers with tattoos. Even though tattoos are no longer seen as marking ones self as belonging to a particular cult religion as it was in Old Testament times, since we are taking everything literally, these people have condemned themselves. I feel bad for the tattoo artists... God must not like them much at all. Lastly, for the brides and wives out there, if you were not a virgin on your wedding night, expect to be stoned to death. It's the law.

I find it ironic that fundamentalists use Leviticus to push their anti-gay agenda, and yet ignore the well-spring of other do's and don'ts that society has seemed to move past as our understanding of human nature and the world around us has evolved to a greater comprehenshion over time.

Now, as to the sanctity of marriage, and its traditional role model, I suggest we go back to the Medieval and Renaissance time period. After all, the 20th century was not a good time for marriages as divorces became more common, and even accepted by many Christian Churches, even though they are strictly prohibited by the Bible. In the late Medieval and Renaissance period, a woman was either married off or sent to a convent by the age of 12. Her husband would have been at least 30 years old, since they felt it took a male that long to mature. Women had no choice in whom they married, and love had nothing to do with it. It was a business contract between two families, usually to make a profit or merge power. In fact, most marriages were not even performed in a Church until much later.

Based on this model, I'd say our exemplar of heterosexual marriage resembles nothing of what we think of acceptable marriage today. Really, how many brides and grooms do you know are 12 and 30? How many are even virgins? Say what you will about the lack of morals in our day and age... Churches still marry these people and bless their unions. Tisk Tisk.

Since we obviously do not take EVERYTHING in the Bible literally (otherwise I know a few wives who need to be stoned to death, as well as a few tattoo wearing men), and have learned a wealth of information about human nature, sociology and psychology since the hundreds of years B.C., I think it's time to apply this updated thinking to EVERYONE, not just the heterosexual majority. For those out there who will forever believe that homosexuality is a choice, not a born condition, and will forever chastise those who want to publicly and legally solidify their union, I leave you with this popular slogan: "If you don't want gay marriage, then don't get one!"

The Defenders (2009)

I agree.. let's save the "traditional" definition of what marriage means. But how far back do we go???